Ep 34 Why you need a poly-friendly therapist with Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (they/she)

Apr 10

This week host Renae Johnson (they/them) and Open Space Therapy Collective Clinical Director Kristen Crowe (they/she) discuss the importance of having a therapist who is knowledgeable about polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationships.

In this episode we answer:

What’s polyamory and what different forms or arrangements does it come in? Who decides to do polyamory and why? Is poly something that only queer people do?
When might polyamory come up in therapy?
How can therapists help with understanding poly identities and poly relationships?
How shame can show up in the therapy room
How to identify if your therapist can support you in all of your relationships

Join us as we dive into the complexities of these relationship experiences and find ways to grow your poly/ENM relationships in the way that is most fulfilling for you.

Embracing Polyamory: The Importance of Finding a Poly-Friendly Therapist

Hey y’all! Let's talk about something near and dear to many of our hearts: polyamory. As someone who values love and relationships in all their diverse forms, I want to shed some light on the importance of finding a therapist who is poly-friendly and understanding of non-monogamous lifestyles.

What is polyamory?

Polyamory, for those who may be unfamiliar, is the practice of engaging in consensual romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners simultaneously. It's about building connections based on trust, communication, and mutual respect, rather than adhering to traditional monogamous norms. For many of us in the LGBTQ+ community, polyamory offers a pathway to authentic self-expression and fulfilling relationships outside of societal expectations.

Why you need a poly-friendly therapist

So, why is it essential to find a therapist who is poly-friendly? Well, for starters, navigating polyamorous relationships can come with its own set of unique challenges and complexities. From managing jealousy and communication breakdowns to navigating the intersection of multiple identities and desires, there's a lot to unpack. Having a therapist who understands and respects the dynamics of polyamory can make all the difference in feeling supported and validated on your journey.

Not all therapists are poly-knowledgeable and accepting

Unfortunately, not all therapists are knowledgeable or accepting of non-monogamous lifestyles. Some may hold biases or misconceptions about polyamory, viewing it as inherently unstable or unhealthy. Others may lack the cultural competency to understand the nuances of polyamorous relationships within the context of LGBTQ+ identities. This can lead to feelings of invalidation or judgment, making it difficult to open up and explore your experiences in therapy fully.

That's why finding a therapist who is poly-friendly is so crucial. A poly-friendly therapist is someone who not only accepts but celebrates the diversity of human relationships. They recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to love and intimacy and are committed to creating a safe and affirming space for clients to explore their unique relationship dynamics.

Poly-friendly therapists understand the importance of communication, boundaries, and consent in polyamorous relationships. They're skilled at helping clients navigate complex emotions, resolve conflicts, and cultivate healthy connections with their partners. Whether you're navigating polyamory for the first time or seeking support in an existing polyamorous relationship, a poly-friendly therapist can offer invaluable guidance and insight.

Why OSTC values poly-friendly therapists

Moreover, seeing a poly-friendly therapist can also help combat the stigma and misconceptions surrounding polyamory within the mental health field. By advocating for inclusive and affirming care, we're not only supporting individual clients but also working to create a more inclusive and accepting society for all LGBTQ+ individuals.

In conclusion, finding a poly-friendly therapist is essential for anyone exploring or actively practicing polyamory within the LGBTQ+ community. It's about finding a therapist who respects your relationship choices, understands the unique challenges you may face, and is committed to supporting your journey toward authenticity and fulfillment. So, if you're in search of a therapist who gets it, don't be afraid to advocate for yourself and seek out someone who is poly-friendly. Your relationships deserve to be celebrated and supported, and with the right therapist by your side, you can navigate the ups and downs of polyamory with confidence and resilience.

Therapist Bio:

Kristen Crowe (she/they) is a Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults, couples, and people in ENM relationships to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson (they/them) founded Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC), a group practice and community hub that focuses on mental health for and by the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities and their allies.

Renae is an art therapist who specializes in working with queer artists who are exploring their gender identity and recovering from complex trauma. Previous to founding OSTC, Renae spent a decade in community mental health services, providing therapy and as an Operations Director in organizations serving people experiencing complex co-occurring diagnoses. Prior to their career as a therapist, Renae was a working artist who worked in figurative painting and sculpture.

Renae is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional.